From Trust to Isolation: How Involuntary Celibacy Erodes Our Society

Author: Kyla Scanlon

Translated by: Baihua Blockchain

Tragedy of the Commons

In economics, the tragedy of the commons refers to shared resources—such as farmland, fisheries, or clean air—being overexploited, ultimately leading to collapse. Today, we are experiencing a modern version of the tragedy of the commons, not limited to tangible resources but also encompassing the fundamental infrastructure of our society:

Social Commons: Trust, relationships, community.

Cognitive Commons: Curiosity, education, critical thinking.

Economic Commons: Stable markets, shared prosperity, institutional trust.

Information Commons: Language, reality, basic consensus.

Unlike traditional commons that collapse due to physical depletion, these intangible resources are gradually disintegrating due to systemic incentives that reward isolation, compliance, instability, and division.

This may sound bold, but I believe we are moving towards a societal operating system of “involuntary celibacy” (incelism)—no longer just an online subculture, but the default mode of society. “Involuntary celibacy” refers to a group of individuals who believe they cannot find romantic partners, often exhibiting feelings of “resentment, hatred, self-pity, racism, misogyny, and nihilism.” This mindset is eroding public resources: isolation, outsourced cognition, flattened identities, and performative resentment have become profitable norms. Governance and culture are dominated by memes, hatred, and algorithm-driven anger.

Social Commons

A stable society begins with stable relationships—friends, neighbors, colleagues, family. These connections form the foundation upon which abstract concepts like democracy or economic growth can operate.

But the current situation is not optimistic. Many have discussed this, such as Derek Thompson in his cover article “The Anti-Social Century” in The Atlantic, where he brilliantly describes how we are alienating each other. Meaningful connections between gender, class, and politics seem to be collapsing. The post-pandemic social infrastructure is warped, and we have lost shared norms and collective rituals. What has replaced them? Transactional connections, platform-driven loneliness, and the false sense of belonging provided by algorithmic tribes—these merely reflect your preferences back to you. Social interactions (from friendships to romantic relationships) are increasingly being commodified, optimized, ranked, and gamified. (Of course, the internet and dating apps have their positive sides, but the negative trends seem to prevail.)

A society built on transactional interactions and shallow connections is inherently fragile. People who cannot trust each other in daily life will not suddenly trust each other when voting. Those who cannot maintain friendships or partnerships may also struggle to engage in democratic institutions or civic participation. Without a solid foundation of relationships, society cannot maintain stable democracy.

Without genuine community bonds, civic engagement declines. As Guy Debord warned, politics devolves into performance rather than substance.

Cognitive Commons

We no longer teach people to think—we teach them to comply.

Curiosity is now seen as risky or inefficient.

This is a pattern: no one is willing to take risks. Whether it’s elected officials or 19-year-olds choosing a college major. Because in this economy, everything has turned into compliance. As Italian philosopher Umberto Eco warned in “Ur-Fascism,” social systems do not collapse overnight but erode through small compromises, normalizing compliance as a civic virtue.

Take Cluely as an example. This product allows you to wear glasses that “cheat” while dating, partly as a marketing gimmick (how to earn clicks by angering people), and partly reflecting the current ethos of cognitive commons. The rise of AI companies has made us rethink the meaning of “being human,” and their answer is “efficiency and optimization.” Perhaps that is the answer.

Cluely’s declaration states: “We built it so you never have to think alone again.” AI is no longer a tool to assist thinking but is attempting to replace thinking. Critical thinking, ambiguity, creativity—these qualities that define the best of humanity—are being replaced by optimized instant answers.

This is ubiquitous. In politics, nuance becomes dangerous, and Congress dares not confront President Trump. Even in leisure time, hobbies must be measured by “side hustle potential.” Anne Helen Petersen wrote in a brilliant article: “The internalized logic is vicious and persistent: If you spend time doing something, and that thing has money-making potential, not making money is financially irresponsible.” The obsessive pursuit and monetization of hobbies are not just escapism but a response to educational burnout, economic instability, and performative living. It is a way for people to assert identity and agency within structural constraints. Optimization, efficiency, monetization, and the cycle continues!

Without curiosity and critical thinking, we are easily manipulated, susceptible to polarized narratives, and ultimately lose the ability to make independent judgments—which is crucial for democratic citizens.

Economic Commons

Policy is an emotional projection—when those who despise the system become the system itself.

The economy relies on trust—not just in money or policies, but in the reliable rules and institutions surrounding money and policies. Today, this credibility is evaporating. Why? Because economic policy has become a stage for personal resentments, emotional reactions, and political performances. I have written multiple times about the issue of “trust.” Take tariffs as an example; tariffs could serve as strategic tools, but recently they have not. Tax rates are adjusted arbitrarily, supply chains are disrupted, and businesses are left confused.

According to Bloomberg, Treasury Secretary Scott Bessent privately acknowledged this instability at a closed-door investor meeting arranged by JPMorgan, admitting that the current 145% tariff on China is unsustainable. He hinted that a cooling-off period would come soon (though negotiations have not yet begun) and pointed out that, according to Eamon Javers, container bookings between the U.S. and China have dropped by 64%. He explicitly stated: “The goal is not decoupling,” but rather to push China towards a consumer society and the U.S. towards a manufacturing society.

This is absurd, as it seems to imply we are entering the “Chinese Century.” The U.S. is giving up its most comfortable seat. When you see Chinese manufacturing—like Xiaomi’s factory “producing a phone every second, with no production staff (only maintenance personnel), perspective, running 24 hours, lights off”—you can’t help but wonder, what does this mean?

What is even more disturbing is why this critical information is shared privately at JPMorgan’s closed-door investor events rather than publicly and transparently? Part of the reason is that no one dares to directly challenge Trump—Bessent seems to have leaked a lot of information because publicly questioning him is politically too risky. Another part may be some sort of “handshake-high-five-you’re-my-people-go-trade-this-message” implication.

Meanwhile, in public, both sides oscillate between radical postures and vague commitments. Trump has publicly stated he will not confront China “head-on,” implying a cooling-off period, at least for now. He has also abandoned the idea of firing Powell. The market, of course, rose on this news, but it is just news. The economy will still struggle due to these fluctuations.

The market is currently operating entirely on “mood.” Who can blame them? Look at these headlines, as if someone is talking to themselves.

China, on the other hand, has expressed a willingness to negotiate, but on the condition of mutual respect and reduced threats. They certainly should make such demands! In contrast, the U.S. seems like a child in a toy store when negotiating with Japan: “We don’t know what we want, but we definitely want something.” The result is headline-driven market volatility and diplomatic stalemate.

Martin Wolf incisively pointed out in the “Odd Lots” program: The U.S. enjoys immense economic power due to the dollar’s status as a reserve currency, allowing it to easily maintain large deficits. However, the U.S. seems intent on squandering this advantage through chaotic, emotion-driven policy decisions. Wolf bluntly stated: “You are rich, you are safe—unless you screw it up too badly. And now, why would you screw it up so badly? That is our current situation.”

We all know (even those who initially supported tariffs understand) that this governance style is extremely irrational, with policies shaped not by economic logic but by resentment and projection. There is no plan—Bessent and Lutnick had to persuade Trump to lift tariffs against the wishes of tariff supporters. Look at this!

Meanwhile, ordinary Americans are bracing for the impact. CEOs of Walmart, Target, and Home Depot privately warned Trump that tariffs could lead to supply chain disruptions and empty shelves. Who benefits from the trade war? According to the NBER, it’s companies connected to the government! No wonder Tim Cook personally called!

A nationwide hiring freeze is spreading, causing pain in the grassroots economy—real costs paid for abstract resentments. According to Goldman Sachs, the total layoffs of federal employees (including contract and grant employees) could reach 1.2 million, with the tourism industry losing $90 billion, about 0.3% of GDP. Real costs. For what?

We are burning through economic commons, not because it makes sense, but because our political leaders confuse economic policy with personal grudges. The chaotic market is thriving, and trust is evaporating.

Information Commons

We no longer have a shared reality—only overlapping simulations.

A simple way to judge whether a space has healthy information commons is: Can you describe reality without immediately sparking controversy? Can we agree on a common language, basic facts, or even definitions? The answer increasingly is: no. I wrote about this in 2022 as well.

The information commons—language, reality, and basic consensus—are collapsing because we have monetized division. Social media platforms are not built for clarity or understanding but are optimized for engagement, anger, and polarization. Algorithms do not reward nuance but reward certainty, controversy, and emotional triggers.

What is replacing consensual reality? Loyal reality, tribal reality, personalized reality! We no longer debate ideas or solutions but argue over whose facts matter, whose feelings matter, and whose truth prevails. Truth itself becomes a loyalty test rather than a common foundation. Without shared information commons, cooperation becomes impossible. We do not solve problems; we argue over who gets to define the problem! Language is weaponized, and reality is fragmented.

Conclusion

So, what to do? Bitcoin is rising again. Since “Liberation Day,” it has decoupled from Nasdaq, rising 10%, while the S&P 500 has fallen 6%. Its rise is not optimism but a direct vote against the collapse of trust (and it has diversified away from the U.S.). The rise of assets like gold, silver, defense stocks, and cryptocurrencies reflects the fluctuations in social, cognitive, economic, and informational realms.

These public resources are being eroded, monetized, and exploited bit by bit. Social trust has turned into transactional loneliness. Curiosity has been replaced by compliance and cognitive outsourcing. Stable economic governance has been replaced by chaotic performances. Shared reality has fragmented into competing tribes and personalized truths.

In other words, we have institutionalized “involuntary celibacy”—no longer merely romantic isolation but a profitable disconnection built into the social structure. The market impact is evident: as trust erodes, volatility increases, and traditional safe-haven assets regain dominance. Investors either obtain secret information from within the government or diversify into precious metals, infrastructure, dividend-paying companies, and global portfolios to hedge against the capriciousness of domestic policies.

The social infrastructure has not disappeared forever. Unlike depleted fisheries or farmlands, these intangible resources can be regenerated by choosing connection over transaction, critical thinking over compliance, substance over performance, and shared reality over isolated tribes.

Article link: https://www.hellobtc.com/kp/du/04/5758.html

Source: https://kyla.substack.com/p/what-happens-when-everything-becomes

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